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  • Sooooo.. I'm looking for an opinion on my situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We meet at a young age.... Now he feels he has not got to let hoe "freak flag fly" and now he just want to "chill" & "entertain" but keep me by his side. A part of me is okay with it. But apart of me knows I deserve better!! What are your thoughts on it?

    Asked by Anonymous

    My short answer is go somewhere else.

    If you were young and it’s only been two years, chances are you are still young. And if you let him go now you’ll have more than enough time. That’s something you shouldn’t worry about. Life is short. You don’t need him to keep on living it. And if you BOTH still feel strongly about each other once you’ve both gone off and done your own thing(s), cool. If not, cool. Life goes on. The most important thing is that you own and enjoy your own on your own terms.

    Having said that… There are a few options you have based on how YOU feel.

    If deserve better means you went into this relationship with the expectation that you would commit to him only (very reasonable and fully expected), and him to you in return (and he was serious about what he said), then just leave and live your life. Based on what you’ve said, I’m guessing that’s the best option for you. As it is for most people.

    If he piqued your curiosity about your options there are more liberal minded approaches to consider. If your relationship is of the rare breed that can enthusiastically and consensually thrive in risqué behavior, there are also swinger and sex club scenes. From what I’ve read, most require that any man is accompanied by a woman. You as two consenting adults can go together knowing what each are are doing as you are doing it. But that’s only if that’s what YOU really want.

    What I wouldn’t suggest is turning a two year relationship into something where you are only committed to him and he can dip into whatever else he likes whenever else he likes. Apparently that sort of thing has worked once in a blue moon (see Megan Fox’s half-open marriage and the very rare happy equally open relationship), but given your response I don’t think that’s the kind of thing you want at all.

    If that’s what he wants, and you don’t, and he’s set on pursuing that, he isn’t your boyfriend anymore. If YOU don’t WANT to talk to him anymore, don’t. If you see a friend you no longer want any kind of romantic or physical relationship with, then do as you feel. If you see someone you might want sex from every once in a while, then do what you want. The point is do what makes YOU feel comfortable and happy. But do not compromise and confuse his suggested future situation with a committed relationship.

    “ Why didn’t I learn to treat everything like it was the last time. My greatest regret was how much I believed in the future. ”

    —    Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close (via quotethat)

    Ask Me Something

    Get me to write my opinion in something. Maybe something I have not openly thought or talked about yet.

    http://sway33.tumblr.com/post/95241260309/spectralharmonics-sway33.

    spectralharmonics:

    spectralharmonics:

    sway33:

    greatestmusicblog:

    finna delete this blog cause of copyright infringement so feel free to follow my main blog gehovah

    Today I’ve seen maybe 8 or 10 tumbr profiles post a different one sentence version of this message: Copyright infringement…

    That’s a perfectly acceptable model to follow. However, the point is that one shouldn’t have to change their whole system to conform to what Warner wants them to, y’know?

    When my blog — and the many other blogs like it — serve the purpose of introducing as many people as possible to as many styles as possible, with the hope of expanding peoples’ tastes and minds, there’s only so far you can go without going into commercial territory.

    Yeah. I do. I’m kind of at a loss for words. To your point, I personally get much more of my music off of tumblr than I do radio or tv. There’s more variety here.

    (Source: )

    Can the folks in Ferguson vote the/any current members of the police force out? Because this has gotten beyond ridiculous.

    And when is this cop getting charged and sent to jail, and inevitably prison?

    That’s the bottom line.

    What’s with all of this other unnecessary distraction?

    The police are trying so hard to legitimize all this and it just looks more and more obvious and ridiculous.

    youngblacksamurai:

    youngblacksamurai:

    jackofalljams:

    theedjcagedbird:

    vivalatwix:

    untouchmyhair:

    kumquatsanddungbeatles:

    untouchmyhair:

    LOOK AT THIS BABY PLAY!

    YALL WASNT READY FOR IT

    ^^^^^^^↑↑↑^^^^^^^

    I.was.NOT.ready

    Da behbehs

    yooooooo i really was not prepared to see this

    holy shit 

    get. that. shit. got. damn.

    It’s been almost a year since I’ve reblogged this and I’ma do it again

    (via floricanto-canela)

    spectralharmonics:

    sway33:

    greatestmusicblog:

    finna delete this blog cause of copyright infringement so feel free to follow my main blog gehovah

    Today I’ve seen maybe 8 or 10 tumbr profiles post a different one sentence version of this message: Copyright infringement (sometimes because of some message Tumblr sent them) and I might/am going to be going to my other profile.”

    What is this all about?

    In the case of greatestmusicblog? Record companies…

    Ok. So why not ignore/delete the record companies’ music and reblog good stuff you find from the amateurs? That’s the music I found when I first came on. And in that way you also introduce some stuff we haven’t heard on the radio or seen on TV kind of often. And I can’t imagine that they’d be mad at the promotion.

    Hate to see good music blogs go.

    (Source: )

    greatestmusicblog:

    finna delete this blog cause of copyright infringement so feel free to follow my main blog gehovah

    Today I’ve seen maybe 8 or 10 tumbr profiles post a different one sentence version of this message: Copyright infringement (sometimes because of some message Tumblr sent them) and I might/am going to be going to my other profile.”

    What is this all about?

    (Source: )

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